"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return."
This is one of my favorite movie quotes of all time: one, because it is from one of my favorite movies of all time, Moulin Rouge, and two, because it holds SO MUCH TRUTH!
Side note (notice the left justification... oh am I a clever boy...): I actually
used this quote in my mission farewell talk. The topic of the talk was love
and I decided to end the talk with the above quote. I even cited it and I'm
glad that I did, because I looked down and saw my Aunt Tanya's eyes
nearly explode out of her head when she heard that I was quoting a movie
about a French courtesan.
Well, the subject of love has been brought up amongst my group of friends quite a bit recently. More specifically, we've ended up having several conversations about love languages. My roommate Kyle is most proficient his knowledge of the various love languages and is very quick to observe who speaks which.
So there are 5 love languages:
Physical Touch This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
Words of Affirmation Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Quality Time In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Receiving Gifts Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
I was confused as to which language I am... Wallis, Kyle, and I were talking for about 45 minutes last night about it, and while they both agreed very quickly that I was most definitely physical touch. However, the more that they though about it, the more they were confused as well... words of affirmation, quality time, and acts of service all ranked high up there too. Well, I decided to just figure it out the hard way... actually take the test.
I took the test and voila! the results are as follows
So it looks like Wallis and Kyle were right on the ball... what can I say!? I like to be touched.
Anyway, I love these kinds of tests... maybe it's because it's all about me and I admit, I'm cocky and often times conceited. To quote Toby Keith, "I like talking about you, you, you, you, usually, but occasionally, I wanna talk about me!" (listen to the song here)
So take the test and, if you are so inclined, let me know how you speak (no, not to be the creepy guy that's looking to see if we're compatible, I'm just curious...).